tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6221132056819018315.post8422178957455725040..comments2023-06-20T05:23:28.922-07:00Comments on xo.leslieanne: Parenting Confessions, Part 1xo.leslieannehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05690094751825628344noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6221132056819018315.post-53534206613961282682014-02-26T13:16:00.775-08:002014-02-26T13:16:00.775-08:00It's definitely a conscious effort - I don'...It's definitely a conscious effort - I don't see how you could continue moving forward in life otherwise. It's a daily effort, too. We don't have a child but my husband and I make a point to have daily conversation, no matter how busy we get - usually we reserve supper time for this. It's a time to catch up on how our day was as well as the mundane aspects of life such as "we have to do taxes - when would be a good time to do them? should we do them together since it's our first time as a married couple?" And even as simple as those things seem, we make them so complex! Maybe I want to do them all by myself because I know (think) I can do them quicker but he wants to do them together so we can both learn. What do we do? Compromise: we will do them together this time and if it's easy one of us will just do them for the years to come.<br /><br />Learning how to deal with each other's differences and perspectives can be completely exhausting. Using your words to communicate that you don't understand or need some space or need a hug is far better than hinting at things and assuming the other person should pick up on cues. Again, it's exhausting...but so completely necessary. Your husband and child are there because you want them to be! You love them. Grow together, listen to each other, and put your reactions on hold until you can try to see things from another perspective. Learn from each other and learn together. Any argument or discussion is an opportunity to learn. Be vulnerable with each other. Choose to finally say things that you replay over and over in your head but never speak. You'll probably find that those people will love you even more for your vulnerability, not less. Remember that it's good and human to have emotions. You are 100% entitled to any emotion you feel - just make sure you take responsibility for it.<br /><br />I don't think there is a secret to any of this. I think it's just being alive. It's really hard. Hopefully this helps.hillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07274014834129716118noreply@blogger.com